Good morning all! I hope you had a fabulous weekend. I wanted to start the week off by introducing you to Stephanie over at Meet With A Smile. She is super sweet and I truly enjoy reading her posts when they show up in my Bloglovin’ feed. So sit back and enjoy her post about forgiveness as you drink you cup of coffee (or tea if you’re cool like me 🙂 ).
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Has anyone ever said something that hurt your feelings? Have you ever been thrown under the bus at work? Have you ever been lied to or gossiped about or made fun of?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you’ve (hopefully) forgiven this person or need to and don’t know it yet.
I remember working at this design store in college, and at least half of the employees were of an older generation. One in particular tried to make my life miserable by repeatedly telling my employer I wasn’t doing what I was supposed to be doing. (If that were true, I’m sure they wouldn’t have kept me for 5 years!) But I guess she had nothing better to do. She was the kind of woman that was sugary sweet to your face, but would stab you in the back and pour lemon juice on the wound as soon as you weren’t looking. We all knew her tactics, so I learned to forgive this crazy lady and not let her ruin my mood each time I worked. I learned to laugh in the midst of her desperate need for attention.
What makes people so mean? I don’t know. And I don’t want to blame it on life experiences, because there are plenty of people I know that have had tragic lives but would still give you the shirt off their backs.
I could have held onto the anger and resentment I felt towards her. But why let something so trivial devour me, when I know who I am. I know who I want to be……And it’s not a bitter old lady trying to ruin people’s lives.
In my lifetime, I’ve been made fun. I’ve been thrown under a proverbial bus. I’ve been gossiped about and lied to. Those life experiences have made me a stronger person. And also, through those lessons, I can teach my kids how not to be. Kids are mean. Bottom line. But mine won’t be. They will be functioning citizens trying to make the world a better place. (Well at least that’s what direction I’ll steer them in.)
Through your negative experiences, create something positive. Forgive. Then create. I know there are worse situations out there and it may be hard to forgive right away. I’ve seen plenty of heartache, brokenness, and despair in my life to understand why forgiveness is so passionately grasped and not given. But there is beauty in our ashes. Let’s release the grip anger has on us and forgive. By doing so, you can get that happiness and joy back from the person who took it and live life freely.
Here are some popular quotes on the subject:
- Forgiveness isn’t something we do for others. We do it so we can get well and move on. -unknown
- Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself. -Tony Robbins
- If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. -Mother Teresa
- The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. -Mahatma Ghandi
Has there been a time when you forgave someone?How did you feel afterwards?
That was good stuff huh? I hope you enjoyed getting to know Stephanie a little bit, and I encourage you to check out her blog.
Now I know that some of you are probably missing me around here today ( 🙂 Just kidding) so I wanted to let you know that I am guest posting over at Lovely Does It! I am sharing an easy tutorial on how to make a Spring infinity scarf. Please go check it out!